Single Again (sigh), or Wondering—Are They “The One”?
You’re single again, and you want to Win the Breakup.
You’re dating someone new and you’re wondering… Could they be “The One”?
You’re in a relationship and you find you are having the same argument you had yesterday, and the day before. Come to think of it, this is what happened in your last relationship, too.
This time, you want to Get. It. Right.
Relationships tend to be the place where all our anxiety, all our insecurity, all our automatic (but not-so-wonderful) ways of behaving show up and bite us in the a**. This means that relationships can be a wonderful crucible for personal growth. And I use the word “crucible” for a reason. It’s. not. easy.
If you have been struggling in your current or your previous relationship, I can help you uncover those patterns and find ways to be who you want to be in a relationship, so that your partner (current or future) can join you in the healthy, loving, supportive relationship you deserve.
But…Can I work on my relationship all by myself?
Here are some of the issues I hear about the most:
I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells, afraid that what I do will piss her off. I’m starting to tell little white lies just to keep the peace.
I’m frustrated and angry, no matter how many times I tell him something, he never listens. I have to throw a fit to be heard!
I don’t feel like I have a voice in this relationship. I don’t even know what my voice is anymore. I’m disappearing and it freaks me out.
Every time my phone signals me that they’ve sent a text, my heart sinks with dread. What did I do wrong now?
These are all issues that we can work on in individual therapy, to help you create the kind of loving, supportive, meaningful relationship you deserve.
You will learn to identify problematic patterns, and why they show up time and time again in your relationship. You will learn new skills to exchange those patterns for healthy ones that will get you what you want and deserve. When one person changes the dance, the other person has to change their moves as well. Sometimes they even end up wanting to come with you to couples therapy, or get their own individual therapy. Sometimes they are just too attached to the old way of doing things, and the relationship fades.
Either way, you will learn to show up in your relationships the way you really want to be—in a way that is more authentically you. It’s not easy, but it is incredibly rewarding. Bonus— along the way, all that anxiety starts to fade away, too.
If this resonates with you, and you are interested in learning more about how to break free from unhealthy patterns and create a relationship that is supportive and loving, give me a call at 323-999-1537, email me at email@example.com, or click on the button below to go directly to my online calendar and make an appointment for a free consultation either on the phone or in my office in West Los Angeles.