Why am I So Stressed All the Time?
And what can I do to find some peace and calm in my life?
At work and in your relationship you’re the fixer, the doer.
You’re the one who Makes. Shit. Happen.
And you’re exhausted.
Everyone counts on you because you’re so capable, and you’ve always been proud to be that person. The one that everyone can rely on. But more and more, you don’t have the time or energy for the things you love– like working out, or reading a good book. Hell, you barely have the energy to binge-watch your favorite show on Netflix! You’d love to have a relationship that supports and nurtures you, but even if you are partnered right now, you feel disconnected and alone.
You long for Peace. Clarity. Connection.
Life in Los Angeles can be fast and furious, and is often overwhelming. When friends ask how we’re doing, we automatically say, “Busy!”. It used to be a good thing. You felt like you were doing something important. You were important. Now it’s hard to see the point. You want to be valued for something other than being industrious. You want to value yourself for something other than being busy.
I can teach you skills and techniques to slow it all down. We won’t just practice the basics – deep breathing, mindfulness, meditation– you’ve probably tried that already, anyway. We will address the “meta-anxiety”– namely the anxiety about your anxiety. The little voice that says, “The deep breathing isn’t going to work and your anxiety is going to mess up this important event” or, “You are always going to feel this way. Life is just ridiculously stressful these days", or "You never know when another panic attack is going to humiliate you in front of your friends or co-workers".
It doesn’t need to be that way.
I have worked with many people who felt just the way you are feeling right now. They have found ways to manage their anxiety so that they feel comfortable going about their everyday lives, and confident that they can successfully negotiate stressful moments the way they want to.
Wouldn’t you like to understand how you came to be the way you are?
Looking at the patterns in your life since you were a small child can help you understand the places where you get stuck as an adult. And this understanding will transform how you feel about yourself– you will see how the things you did as a child were important to your emotional survival. You will learn to have empathy for your young self, and appreciate the strength you had in managing your life however you needed to at the time.
Chances are that the very characteristics that now get you stuck, are just the flip side of the characteristics that make you successful so much of the time.
Are you a go-getter?
You know what you want and you pursue it until you achieve it. You stand out for your age and experience– you are determined and hard-working. At the same time, you secretly feel like it’s never enough to make you feel really good about yourself. If everyone really knew who you were, they would never think so highly of you. You are afraid that one day it will all come crashing down.
Are you super easy-going?
Going with the flow makes you the one everyone likes- and the one everyone calls to ask for a favor. It’s getting to be overwhelming. You want to speak up for yourself but are afraid no one will like you any more if you don’t agree with them. And you secretly feel like you don’t really deserve to stand up for yourself. But the frustration and the anger are building up inside and you don’t know what to do about it.
Understanding how you came to interact with the world in this way will be the first step on the path to becoming the person you want to be. You will learn how to break free from these patterns that are keeping you stuck, and how to interact with your world in a way that will bring you the joy and success that you crave and deserve.
Humans are social animals. This means that we crave a deep connection with another human being–a connection on a soul level, where we love and cherish each other for who we really are–warts and all. When we don't have this kind of connection, we can feel not only lonely and isolated, but anxious, stressed out, angry, or depressed.
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Are you ready to find your peace?
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