How Do I Deal With A Passive-Aggressive Partner?

How Do I Deal With A Passive-Aggressive Partner?

“You’re just being so passive-aggressive.”

We hear people say this fairly often, but what does it really mean? Passive-aggressive behavior is when someone says or does something that on the face of it seems innocuous, or even kind, but there is a “hidden” agenda that is negative. It is aggressive behavior that wears the mask of being passive.

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Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

As someone who does values-based therapy, I have seen how helping a client clarify their values, and then live each day according to those same values, can transform a life. I see my clients go from self-rejecting to self-affirming; from overwhelmed to joyful!

Then I read the news.

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Are You Anxious About Heading Back to School?

Are You Anxious About Heading Back to School?

Are you stressed out about school starting up again? Tests! Research papers! Sleepless nights! Quirky roommates! Social anxiety! Pressure to succeed! Pressure to decide on a career!

Let’s keep it simple! Here are some tips to help you get through those last days before you return to campus:

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It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

Advice about self-care is ubiquitous in our “Being-Busy-Is-the-Way-to-Be-Important” world.

Most articles about self-care go something like this:

Set aside time for yourself on your calendar. Get up half an hour earlier to meditate. Get a massage. Take a bath after work with candles and soft music. Hmm.

I have a different idea.

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How To Apologize - Part One

How To Apologize - Part One

 After attending a lecture by one of my favorite psychologists, Harriet Lerner, I decided that I’d better buy the book and learn some more about how to get people to apologize to me… um, cough, I mean how to give a good apology.

Here are some of the gems from Dr. Harriet Lerner’s book, Why Won’t You Aplogize?:

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Is AI Going to Make My Therapist Obsolete?

Is AI Going to Make My Therapist Obsolete?

Why would I pay for therapy when I can just tell Siri about my bad day?

 We now have mental health apps for our phones and tablets, as well as bots like Siri, Alexa and Google Assistant, that can respond to our emotional statements and inquiries, and even help us regulate our emotions.

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5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

We Google “How to sleep in hot weather?”. We try fans, cold washcloths, soothing music, meditation. There are many suggestions on the internet about how to fall asleep more easily, but what are the things we are doing that are actually making it harder to get a good night’s sleep?

Read on to learn 5 things you might be doing that make it even harder to get that restful sleep you need:

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How Can We Combat Suicide Contagion?

How Can We Combat Suicide Contagion?

The recent suicides of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade have left us shocked and saddened. Many, many of us have either experienced thoughts of suicide, or have loved ones who have had thoughts, attempts, or suicide completions, and these recent deaths also remind us of the deep sadness we have felt in the past. It’s hard to know what we can do to help.

Read on to learn the inspiring story of how one man’s dream to increase suicide awareness led to a very special coffee shop where workers are trained in ways to support the mental health of their customers.

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Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

When The New York Times ran an article in January about Yale Professor Laurie Santos’ class, "Psychology and the Good Life" it quickly went viral. Clearly the search for “The Good Life” struck a chord not just on a college campus, but in society at large.

What can we learn from three Yale professors who tell us how to "Live the Good Life"?

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Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Do You Have the Valentine's Day Blues?

Valentine's Day often makes men in couples nervous and single women sad. Teenage girls have high expectations which are rarely met. Many people end up feeling let down one way or another.

So what can we do on Valentine’s Day to honor the spirit of the day and ignore the media blitz? Read on...

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That Funky February Feeling

That Funky February Feeling

It’s not just me–I’ve noticed that in the last few days friends, family, and clients all seem to be in a funk. So much so, that it started me thinking, is there something about this time of year?

Here are some surprising ways you can think differently about what you're feeling, and hopefully lift the funk!

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Sneaky Ways Your iPhone is Hurting Your Relationships and Destroying Your Peace of Mind

Sneaky Ways Your iPhone is Hurting Your Relationships and Destroying Your Peace of Mind

Aka–The Three Dots of Doom…

Why do we love our smartphones? Control.

As in, it gives us control over our communication. We can take the time to craft a perfect response, or to change our plans at the last minute.

Why do we hate our smartphones? Control.

That is, lack of. As in, you are sitting and watching the three dots of doom (officially known as “the typing awareness indicator”) as they bounce around, promising a long and soulful response, and then…nothing.

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How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions This Year!

How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions This Year!

You may have heard about “The Secret”, the 2006 book that has sold over 28 million copies and has been on the New York Times Bestseller List for over 200 weeks.

The “secret” that is described in the book and movie is “The Law of Attraction”, which tells us that if we want something to manifest in our lives, we need to imagine it regularly–to “know” that it will come to us.

But what does science actually show us is the best way to achieve what we want in life?

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