The College Admissions Scandal— How It Explains Why You Never Feel Good Enough

The College Admissions Scandal—  How It Explains Why You Never Feel Good Enough

I get calls every day from young adults who are confused and upset that their life isn’t going anything like what they had planned. I think it’s because my generation was afraid to let their kids fail at anything while growing up.

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The Year of the Flying Pig

The Year of the Flying Pig

A Brief Rant on New Beginnings, Being Hopeful, and Staying Open to Whatever Comes Next…

This year I’ve decided to have my own personal new year: The Year of the Flying Pig. If you’ve ever realized that your life is not at all what you’d thought it would be, you are in good company!

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Why Do We Keep Having the Same Bad Relationship with Different People?

Why Do We Keep Having the Same Bad Relationship with Different People?

If you just broke up, it might take a month or so before you’ve stopped stalking them on Insta, and watching all your favorite sad movies on Netflix. Once you come back up for air, then you are probably ready to re-evaluate your relationship, so that you don’t make the same mistakes all over again. Here’s how to do it right the next time!

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That Funky February Feeling

That Funky February Feeling

It’s not just me–I’ve noticed that in the last few days friends, family, and clients all seem to be in a funk. So much so, that it started me thinking, is there something about this time of year?

Here are some surprising ways you can think differently about what you're feeling, and hopefully lift the funk!

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How To Enjoy Valentine's Day, Whether or Not You Have a Valentine!

How To Enjoy Valentine's Day, Whether or Not You Have a Valentine!

Whether you’re in a relationship or not, Valentine’s Day is more for Hallmark, and restaurants, and florists, than it is for you! Even people who are in a happy relationship are often disappointed on Valentine’s Day! If you are single, Valentine’s Day can be a depressing reminder that you haven’t yet met The One. Here’s something you should know:

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Get a Fresh Start This February

Get a Fresh Start This February

Did you miss the boat on your New Year’s Resolutions? Are you already behind on your “19 for 2019”? What can you do to have a fresh start at creating some of the habits for the life you really want to have?

There are 86 Days a Year When It’s Best to Start a New Habit

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What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

We are told to reach for the stars because, well, that’s the only way to get there.

Fair enough. But reaching for the stars can be overwhelming. There is a reason why only 8% of us stick to our New Year’s Resolutions all year. We are afraid we won’t succeed. Or we slip up and figure our chance is over—after all, it’s called “Whole 30”, not “Whole 13 + Whole 6 + Whole 11”.

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How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

Part of you is excited about a new year, and having a fresh start. But part of you is bummed that 2018 didn’t go the way you’d planned, and it’s discouraging to think about making New Year’s Resolutions that will once more be long forgotten by February.

 Read on to learn what the experts tell us about how to stick to your New Year’s Resolutions in 2019.

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Are You Dreading Heading Home For The Holidays?

Are You Dreading Heading Home For The Holidays?

hen you go home for the holidays, will you have to deal with someone who tries to manipulate and shame you? Many of us have people in our families who have an automatic way of interacting with the world that involves trying to manipulate those around them— they shame us, put us down, or just ignore us as if we don’t matter. They learned these patterns of behavior when they were very young, and now it’s automatic. It’s not meant to be malicious, but it can destroy your self-confidence nonetheless.

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How to CTFD (um… Calm Down)

How to CTFD (um… Calm Down)

Going home to spend time with our family is generally a mixed bag—we look forward to it, and we dread it. No one can trigger us like Mom. Or our siblings. Or Uncle Joe. Hell, even our partner can drive us crazy when we’re trying to hold it all together until New Year’s. We can all benefit from some advance planning about how to manage our emotions in the middle of the holiday frenzy.

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Winning the Breakup Over the Holidays

Winning the Breakup Over the Holidays

You broke up a while ago, and it’s been rough. You get through the weekdays okay, but the weekends seem to last forever. You go to yoga, do your laundry, go out with friends, but it’s still a struggle. Now the holidays are upon us, and everywhere you go the atmosphere is cheery and romantic. You wonder— how are you going to get through the holidays at home without a partner to be the buffer between you and your family? And what about New Year’s Eve???

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How Do I Deal With A Passive-Aggressive Partner?

How Do I Deal With A Passive-Aggressive Partner?

“You’re just being so passive-aggressive.”

We hear people say this fairly often, but what does it really mean? Passive-aggressive behavior is when someone says or does something that on the face of it seems innocuous, or even kind, but there is a “hidden” agenda that is negative. It is aggressive behavior that wears the mask of being passive.

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Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

As someone who does values-based therapy, I have seen how helping a client clarify their values, and then live each day according to those same values, can transform a life. I see my clients go from self-rejecting to self-affirming; from overwhelmed to joyful!

Then I read the news.

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It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

Advice about self-care is ubiquitous in our “Being-Busy-Is-the-Way-to-Be-Important” world.

Most articles about self-care go something like this:

Set aside time for yourself on your calendar. Get up half an hour earlier to meditate. Get a massage. Take a bath after work with candles and soft music. Hmm.

I have a different idea.

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How To Apologize - Part One

How To Apologize - Part One

 After attending a lecture by one of my favorite psychologists, Harriet Lerner, I decided that I’d better buy the book and learn some more about how to get people to apologize to me… um, cough, I mean how to give a good apology.

Here are some of the gems from Dr. Harriet Lerner’s book, Why Won’t You Aplogize?:

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5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

We Google “How to sleep in hot weather?”. We try fans, cold washcloths, soothing music, meditation. There are many suggestions on the internet about how to fall asleep more easily, but what are the things we are doing that are actually making it harder to get a good night’s sleep?

Read on to learn 5 things you might be doing that make it even harder to get that restful sleep you need:

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How Can We Combat Suicide Contagion?

How Can We Combat Suicide Contagion?

The recent suicides of Anthony Bourdain and Kate Spade have left us shocked and saddened. Many, many of us have either experienced thoughts of suicide, or have loved ones who have had thoughts, attempts, or suicide completions, and these recent deaths also remind us of the deep sadness we have felt in the past. It’s hard to know what we can do to help.

Read on to learn the inspiring story of how one man’s dream to increase suicide awareness led to a very special coffee shop where workers are trained in ways to support the mental health of their customers.

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