It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

Advice about self-care is ubiquitous in our “Being-Busy-Is-the-Way-to-Be-Important” world.

Most articles about self-care go something like this:

Set aside time for yourself on your calendar. Get up half an hour earlier to meditate. Get a massage. Take a bath after work with candles and soft music. Hmm.

I have a different idea.

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Dating When You Live With Your Parents

Dating When You Live With Your Parents

Trying to have a normal dating life when you live at home with your parents can be frustrating and complicated. Read on for ways to communicate with your parents and manage the awkwardness so that you can have the social life you want and deserve to have as the adult you now are.

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Do Dating Apps Make It Harder To Find "The One"?

Do Dating Apps Make It Harder To Find "The One"?

Everyone I know hates the dating apps. All the scrolling is exhausting and depressing, and the number of hotter, smarter, richer, more interesting people out there seems demoralizing. Here are some suggestions to make the whole process more rewarding.

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5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

You can be lonely even when you are surrounded by people; in fact, sometimes that can feel the most lonely of all!

There’s a lot going on in Los Angeles, but people are much more isolated than it appears. Here are some suggestions for ways to meet people in the big city.

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Why Are Millennials Not Having Sex?

Why Are Millennials Not Having Sex?

Our culture makes it seem more rewarding to have a healthy resume than to have an IRL relationship with all it’s messy and complicated feelings.

Here are 5 reasons why Millennials and iGen’ers are having WAY less sex (64%!)

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Your Emotions Could Be Making You Sick!

Your Emotions Could Be Making You Sick!

My clients come to me because they are struggling with anxiety, with their relationships, and often with both. Many also experience physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches, or tension in their back, neck, or even in their jaws. Are there links between these physical symptoms and their mental and emotional state? Absolutely!

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Why Do We Keep Having the Same Bad Relationship with Different People?

Why Do We Keep Having the Same Bad Relationship with Different People?

If you just broke up, it might take a month or so before you’ve stopped stalking them on Insta, and watching all your favorite sad movies on Netflix. Once you come back up for air, then you are probably ready to re-evaluate your relationship, so that you don’t make the same mistakes all over again. Here’s how to do it right the next time!

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What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

We are told to reach for the stars because, well, that’s the only way to get there.

Fair enough. But reaching for the stars can be overwhelming. There is a reason why only 8% of us stick to our New Year’s Resolutions all year. We are afraid we won’t succeed. Or we slip up and figure our chance is over—after all, it’s called “Whole 30”, not “Whole 13 + Whole 6 + Whole 11”.

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How Do I Deal With A Passive-Aggressive Partner?

How Do I Deal With A Passive-Aggressive Partner?

“You’re just being so passive-aggressive.”

We hear people say this fairly often, but what does it really mean? Passive-aggressive behavior is when someone says or does something that on the face of it seems innocuous, or even kind, but there is a “hidden” agenda that is negative. It is aggressive behavior that wears the mask of being passive.

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Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

As someone who does values-based therapy, I have seen how helping a client clarify their values, and then live each day according to those same values, can transform a life. I see my clients go from self-rejecting to self-affirming; from overwhelmed to joyful!

Then I read the news.

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5 Easy Hacks to Spend Less Time on Social Media

5 Easy Hacks to Spend Less Time on Social Media

Chances are that social media plays a significant role in your life. You can learn to manage your social media time so that it serves you in ways that enhance your life and moves you toward your personal goals. Nevertheless, your primary instincts will often thwart you in this effort. It is important to be mindful about your time on social media, and to use the many hacks and tools available to overcome your basic FOMO. You can limit the time you waste on social media and spend your valuable minutes in ways that reflect your own personal values.

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How To Apologize - Part One

How To Apologize - Part One

 After attending a lecture by one of my favorite psychologists, Harriet Lerner, I decided that I’d better buy the book and learn some more about how to get people to apologize to me… um, cough, I mean how to give a good apology.

Here are some of the gems from Dr. Harriet Lerner’s book, Why Won’t You Aplogize?:

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5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

We Google “How to sleep in hot weather?”. We try fans, cold washcloths, soothing music, meditation. There are many suggestions on the internet about how to fall asleep more easily, but what are the things we are doing that are actually making it harder to get a good night’s sleep?

Read on to learn 5 things you might be doing that make it even harder to get that restful sleep you need:

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