5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

You can be lonely even when you are surrounded by people; in fact, sometimes that can feel the most lonely of all!

There’s a lot going on in Los Angeles, but people are much more isolated than it appears. Here are some suggestions for ways to meet people in the big city.

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Your Emotions Could Be Making You Sick!

Your Emotions Could Be Making You Sick!

My clients come to me because they are struggling with anxiety, with their relationships, and often with both. Many also experience physical symptoms like headaches, stomach aches, or tension in their back, neck, or even in their jaws. Are there links between these physical symptoms and their mental and emotional state? Absolutely!

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The College Admissions Scandal— How It Explains Why You Never Feel Good Enough

The College Admissions Scandal—  How It Explains Why You Never Feel Good Enough

I get calls every day from young adults who are confused and upset that their life isn’t going anything like what they had planned. I think it’s because my generation was afraid to let their kids fail at anything while growing up.

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The Year of the Flying Pig

The Year of the Flying Pig

A Brief Rant on New Beginnings, Being Hopeful, and Staying Open to Whatever Comes Next…

This year I’ve decided to have my own personal new year: The Year of the Flying Pig. If you’ve ever realized that your life is not at all what you’d thought it would be, you are in good company!

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Get a Fresh Start This February

Get a Fresh Start This February

Did you miss the boat on your New Year’s Resolutions? Are you already behind on your “19 for 2019”? What can you do to have a fresh start at creating some of the habits for the life you really want to have?

There are 86 Days a Year When It’s Best to Start a New Habit

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What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

We are told to reach for the stars because, well, that’s the only way to get there.

Fair enough. But reaching for the stars can be overwhelming. There is a reason why only 8% of us stick to our New Year’s Resolutions all year. We are afraid we won’t succeed. Or we slip up and figure our chance is over—after all, it’s called “Whole 30”, not “Whole 13 + Whole 6 + Whole 11”.

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How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

Part of you is excited about a new year, and having a fresh start. But part of you is bummed that 2018 didn’t go the way you’d planned, and it’s discouraging to think about making New Year’s Resolutions that will once more be long forgotten by February.

 Read on to learn what the experts tell us about how to stick to your New Year’s Resolutions in 2019.

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Are You Dreading Heading Home For The Holidays?

Are You Dreading Heading Home For The Holidays?

hen you go home for the holidays, will you have to deal with someone who tries to manipulate and shame you? Many of us have people in our families who have an automatic way of interacting with the world that involves trying to manipulate those around them— they shame us, put us down, or just ignore us as if we don’t matter. They learned these patterns of behavior when they were very young, and now it’s automatic. It’s not meant to be malicious, but it can destroy your self-confidence nonetheless.

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How to CTFD (um… Calm Down)

How to CTFD (um… Calm Down)

Going home to spend time with our family is generally a mixed bag—we look forward to it, and we dread it. No one can trigger us like Mom. Or our siblings. Or Uncle Joe. Hell, even our partner can drive us crazy when we’re trying to hold it all together until New Year’s. We can all benefit from some advance planning about how to manage our emotions in the middle of the holiday frenzy.

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Winning the Breakup Over the Holidays

Winning the Breakup Over the Holidays

You broke up a while ago, and it’s been rough. You get through the weekdays okay, but the weekends seem to last forever. You go to yoga, do your laundry, go out with friends, but it’s still a struggle. Now the holidays are upon us, and everywhere you go the atmosphere is cheery and romantic. You wonder— how are you going to get through the holidays at home without a partner to be the buffer between you and your family? And what about New Year’s Eve???

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5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

5 Surprising Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sleep

We Google “How to sleep in hot weather?”. We try fans, cold washcloths, soothing music, meditation. There are many suggestions on the internet about how to fall asleep more easily, but what are the things we are doing that are actually making it harder to get a good night’s sleep?

Read on to learn 5 things you might be doing that make it even harder to get that restful sleep you need:

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Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

When The New York Times ran an article in January about Yale Professor Laurie Santos’ class, "Psychology and the Good Life" it quickly went viral. Clearly the search for “The Good Life” struck a chord not just on a college campus, but in society at large.

What can we learn from three Yale professors who tell us how to "Live the Good Life"?

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Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Do You Have the Valentine's Day Blues?

Valentine's Day often makes men in couples nervous and single women sad. Teenage girls have high expectations which are rarely met. Many people end up feeling let down one way or another.

So what can we do on Valentine’s Day to honor the spirit of the day and ignore the media blitz? Read on...

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Should I Let My Teenager Watch 13 Reasons Why?

Should I Let My Teenager Watch 13 Reasons Why?

Well, the better question probably is, "How do I talk to my teenager about the show 13 Reasons Why?"... I will give you resources in this blog, and there are many other resources available depending on your specific mental health concern. You can be fully prepared to deal with the questions and feelings that may be triggered in your teenager by this show.

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How Can We "Arm" Teachers to Best Help Our Children?

How Can We "Arm" Teachers to Best Help Our Children?

As a therapist married to a teacher, I have been asked about, and certainly been thinking about, the issue of arming our teachers. Every way you turn right now there is angry debate about guns. Many children and parents feel both helpless and afraid.

One way to combat this feeling of helplessness is to get involved with your child’s school and advocate for programs that provide Social Emotional Learning (SEL).

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