Are You Where You "Should" Be Right Now?

Are You Where You "Should" Be Right Now?

3 Ways to Stop “Should-ing” On Yourself!

We all have ideas in our head, often just below our conscious awareness, of what each stage of our lives should look like. When we actually get there, reality rarely matches the construct we’ve been carrying around as “truth”.

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It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

Advice about self-care is ubiquitous in our “Being-Busy-Is-the-Way-to-Be-Important” world.

Most articles about self-care go something like this:

Set aside time for yourself on your calendar. Get up half an hour earlier to meditate. Get a massage. Take a bath after work with candles and soft music. Hmm.

I have a different idea.

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What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

We are told to reach for the stars because, well, that’s the only way to get there.

Fair enough. But reaching for the stars can be overwhelming. There is a reason why only 8% of us stick to our New Year’s Resolutions all year. We are afraid we won’t succeed. Or we slip up and figure our chance is over—after all, it’s called “Whole 30”, not “Whole 13 + Whole 6 + Whole 11”.

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Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

As someone who does values-based therapy, I have seen how helping a client clarify their values, and then live each day according to those same values, can transform a life. I see my clients go from self-rejecting to self-affirming; from overwhelmed to joyful!

Then I read the news.

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5 Easy Hacks to Spend Less Time on Social Media

5 Easy Hacks to Spend Less Time on Social Media

Chances are that social media plays a significant role in your life. You can learn to manage your social media time so that it serves you in ways that enhance your life and moves you toward your personal goals. Nevertheless, your primary instincts will often thwart you in this effort. It is important to be mindful about your time on social media, and to use the many hacks and tools available to overcome your basic FOMO. You can limit the time you waste on social media and spend your valuable minutes in ways that reflect your own personal values.

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Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

When The New York Times ran an article in January about Yale Professor Laurie Santos’ class, "Psychology and the Good Life" it quickly went viral. Clearly the search for “The Good Life” struck a chord not just on a college campus, but in society at large.

What can we learn from three Yale professors who tell us how to "Live the Good Life"?

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10 Lessons From the Happiest People In the World

10 Lessons From the Happiest People In the World

Last month’s release of The Blue Zones of Happiness, by Dan Buettner, and this month’s cover article in National Geographic, “These Are The World’s Happiest Places”, by the same author, have sparked an international conversation about the effect of location on happiness.

Could moving somewhere else be enough to make me happy?

Is the secret to happiness actually location, location, location?

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How To Get Off Of The Hamster Wheel

How To Get Off Of The Hamster Wheel

Have you been bemoaning the fact that you have so many things to do that you don’t want to do, but have to do? Do you also have a lot of fun things that you want to do, but believe you don’t have time for? Are you having trouble figuring out the disconnect? Do you feel like the proverbial hamster on the exercise wheel?

The trick is not to get off of the wheel, but to make running on the wheel something you love to do!

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From Graduation to Adulting

From Graduation to Adulting

The Big Lie is that because we have all these options, we should be able to find one that is exactly meant for us. There is something out there that speaks perfectly to our knowledge, our skills, and our preferences. Maybe. Many people also think that if they find this magical way to spend their time and energy, it will also always be fun and interesting. Nope.

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Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Do You Have the Valentine's Day Blues?

Valentine's Day often makes men in couples nervous and single women sad. Teenage girls have high expectations which are rarely met. Many people end up feeling let down one way or another.

So what can we do on Valentine’s Day to honor the spirit of the day and ignore the media blitz? Read on...

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Is AI Going to Make My Therapist Obsolete?

Is AI Going to Make My Therapist Obsolete?

Why would I pay for therapy when I can just tell Siri about my bad day?

 We now have mental health apps for our phones and tablets, as well as bots like Siri, Alexa and Google Assistant, that can respond to our emotional statements and inquiries, and even help us regulate our emotions.

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Get a Fresh Start This February

Get a Fresh Start This February

Did you miss the boat on your New Year’s Resolutions? Are you already behind on your “19 for 2019”? What can you do to have a fresh start at creating some of the habits for the life you really want to have?

There are 86 Days a Year When It’s Best to Start a New Habit

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Back-To School Part 3 – How Do I Get My Teenager To Talk To Me? – 50 Conversation Starters for Parents of Teens

Back-To School Part 3 – How Do I Get My Teenager To Talk To Me? – 50 Conversation Starters for Parents of Teens

Getting a teenager to talk to you can be tough! “What did you do today, Honey?” “Nothing”. “How did your day go?” “Fine”. Sometimes teen conversation can just sound like a series of grunts! And yet…they talk and text to their friends practically all night long…

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How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

Part of you is excited about a new year, and having a fresh start. But part of you is bummed that 2018 didn’t go the way you’d planned, and it’s discouraging to think about making New Year’s Resolutions that will once more be long forgotten by February.

 Read on to learn what the experts tell us about how to stick to your New Year’s Resolutions in 2019.

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The College Admissions Scandal— How It Explains Why You Never Feel Good Enough

The College Admissions Scandal—  How It Explains Why You Never Feel Good Enough

I get calls every day from young adults who are confused and upset that their life isn’t going anything like what they had planned. I think it’s because my generation was afraid to let their kids fail at anything while growing up.

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The Year of the Flying Pig

The Year of the Flying Pig

A Brief Rant on New Beginnings, Being Hopeful, and Staying Open to Whatever Comes Next…

This year I’ve decided to have my own personal new year: The Year of the Flying Pig. If you’ve ever realized that your life is not at all what you’d thought it would be, you are in good company!

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