It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

It's National Self-Care Awareness Month

Advice about self-care is ubiquitous in our “Being-Busy-Is-the-Way-to-Be-Important” world.

Most articles about self-care go something like this:

Set aside time for yourself on your calendar. Get up half an hour earlier to meditate. Get a massage. Take a bath after work with candles and soft music. Hmm.

I have a different idea.

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Do Dating Apps Make It Harder To Find "The One"?

Do Dating Apps Make It Harder To Find "The One"?

Everyone I know hates the dating apps. All the scrolling is exhausting and depressing, and the number of hotter, smarter, richer, more interesting people out there seems demoralizing. Here are some suggestions to make the whole process more rewarding.

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5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

5 Ways to Beat Loneliness

You can be lonely even when you are surrounded by people; in fact, sometimes that can feel the most lonely of all!

There’s a lot going on in Los Angeles, but people are much more isolated than it appears. Here are some suggestions for ways to meet people in the big city.

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What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

What Would You Do If You Knew You Would Not Fail?

We are told to reach for the stars because, well, that’s the only way to get there.

Fair enough. But reaching for the stars can be overwhelming. There is a reason why only 8% of us stick to our New Year’s Resolutions all year. We are afraid we won’t succeed. Or we slip up and figure our chance is over—after all, it’s called “Whole 30”, not “Whole 13 + Whole 6 + Whole 11”.

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Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

Is the News Making You Worried, Anxious, and Hopeless?

As someone who does values-based therapy, I have seen how helping a client clarify their values, and then live each day according to those same values, can transform a life. I see my clients go from self-rejecting to self-affirming; from overwhelmed to joyful!

Then I read the news.

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How To Apologize - Part One

How To Apologize - Part One

 After attending a lecture by one of my favorite psychologists, Harriet Lerner, I decided that I’d better buy the book and learn some more about how to get people to apologize to me… um, cough, I mean how to give a good apology.

Here are some of the gems from Dr. Harriet Lerner’s book, Why Won’t You Aplogize?:

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Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

Happiness and the Good Life, According to the Experts

When The New York Times ran an article in January about Yale Professor Laurie Santos’ class, "Psychology and the Good Life" it quickly went viral. Clearly the search for “The Good Life” struck a chord not just on a college campus, but in society at large.

What can we learn from three Yale professors who tell us how to "Live the Good Life"?

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Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Here's How To Have a Great Valentine's Day!

Do You Have the Valentine's Day Blues?

Valentine's Day often makes men in couples nervous and single women sad. Teenage girls have high expectations which are rarely met. Many people end up feeling let down one way or another.

So what can we do on Valentine’s Day to honor the spirit of the day and ignore the media blitz? Read on...

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Get a Fresh Start This February

Get a Fresh Start This February

Did you miss the boat on your New Year’s Resolutions? Are you already behind on your “19 for 2019”? What can you do to have a fresh start at creating some of the habits for the life you really want to have?

There are 86 Days a Year When It’s Best to Start a New Habit

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How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

How To Keep Your New Year's Resolutions in 2019

Part of you is excited about a new year, and having a fresh start. But part of you is bummed that 2018 didn’t go the way you’d planned, and it’s discouraging to think about making New Year’s Resolutions that will once more be long forgotten by February.

 Read on to learn what the experts tell us about how to stick to your New Year’s Resolutions in 2019.

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The Year of the Flying Pig

The Year of the Flying Pig

A Brief Rant on New Beginnings, Being Hopeful, and Staying Open to Whatever Comes Next…

This year I’ve decided to have my own personal new year: The Year of the Flying Pig. If you’ve ever realized that your life is not at all what you’d thought it would be, you are in good company!

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